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When Sex is Weaponized: How Narcissists Use Intimacy for Control

In today’s episode of Heartbreak to Wholeness, I continue my conversation with Hilary Buckwalter-Wilde (Part 1 here), diving into one of the most complex and painful topics in narcissistic relationshi...

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Signs You've Been Deceived in a Narcissistic Relationship

If you’ve ever felt like your relationship was straight out of a psychological thriller—complete with unexpected plot twists, love-bombing villains, and a lot of unanswered questions—you’re not alone....

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Breaking Free from Codependency & Building Healthy Self-Esteem

Let’s talk about codependency—yep, the heavy, sticky stuff that’s way too familiar for some of us. I recently sat down with two incredible women, Behk and LAH, the hosts of Narcissists, Gas...

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Trauma Bonding: What It Really Is & How to Avoid It

The phrase trauma bonding has become popular with the rise of awareness around narcissism, yet often I hear people referring to trauma bonding in the wrong way. It is spoken of as an oversharing of...

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6 Strategies to Communicate Healthfully With Your Partner

If you haven't yet heard me yell from the rooftops just how important communication is in a relationship, listen up 📣 sister!

Communication is a cornerstone of a healthy and successful relationship for...

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7 Ways You Sabotage Good Relationships (After Bad Ones)

If left unintegrated, the experience of a bad relationship can mess with your head… and impact future relationships.

You might unintentionally sabotage good relationships as a result of lingering em...

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Want to Attract the Right Man? Start Here (It’s Not About Playing Games)

I have to be honest with you… I don’t really care if you get the guy 😱.

My work with women goes so much deeper and is about so much more than that.

It’s rewiring and reprogramming everything that k...

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9 Things I Learned After My Toxic Relationship

Towards the end of my toxic relationship I was in a fog. Hopeless, anxious, and unsure what was even real (aside from the very real shame and confusion I felt).

When I look back on my self then, I h...

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Why Setting Boundaries Feels So Hard (and How to Do It)

Imagine this...

You're sitting with a little girl when there is a knock at the door. She looks at you excitedly and runs to the door. You follow her, and open it, only to be greeted by a teenager wh...

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3 Toxic Relationship Red Flags You Shouldn’t Ignore

Not sure if your relationship has red flags? Or maybe you are feeling the tingle inside that something isn't quite right in your relationship, but you aren't sure what it all means.

Knowing what ...

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I'm Here for You, Baby Girl: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

All the time spent deconstructing beliefs.

Going deep into your wounds.

Feeling your pain.

Crying your tears.

And acknowledging your fear.

Is for you.

All the moments crying in a ball in the dar...

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How to Say No Without Guilt: Reclaiming Your Voice

"How 'Bout No"

Any Dr. Evil fans?!?

This quote of his from Austin Powers gets me every time.

But, seriously.

How many times have you said yes but meant no?

How many favors have you done, con...

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Bre Wolta, EFT and The Clearing Work™ Certified Practitioner, is a Relationship Clarity Coach who is passionate about helping women heal from the mindf*ck of confusing relationships so that they can become the best version of themselves and increase their capacity to attract + hold healthy love. Bre's own impactful healing journey and ability to hold safe space allows her to walk alongside clients as they do the inner work to become the confident and secure woman they want to be. As the owner of Lucid Living with Bre, she offers signature group coaching containers and a variety of healing spaces. It is her life's work, and deep honor, to help women to wake up to their life and consciously move outside of their default patterning so that they can reconnect to and nurture the most important relationship of all: the one they have with themselves.

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